Divorce Doesn’t Have to Break Your Kid – Top Tips for Supportive Co-Parenting

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Divorce. It’s a heavy word, and the weight of it can feel even heavier when you have children. You’re likely wrestling with your own emotions, but amidst the storm, your kids need you more than ever. So, how do you navigate this new reality and ensure your children feel supported?

Here’s the truth: there’s no perfect answer. Every family is different, and every child will react differently. But there are some key things to keep in mind as you move forward:

Honesty is key (age-appropriately): Kids are perceptive. They’ll pick up on tension, even if you try to hide it. Talk to them openly and honestly about the divorce, using language they understand. Reassure them that it’s not their fault and that you both love them very much.

Brace for Big Emotions: Divorce can be a rollercoaster of emotions for children. They might feel sad, angry, confused – it’s all perfectly normal. Be patient, listen actively, and create a safe space for them to express themselves.

Maintain Routines (as much as possible): Change can be scary, so try to keep some aspects of your children’s lives consistent. Stick to familiar routines for bedtime, meals, and even weekend activities (when possible with co-parenting).

The “Two Homes” Talk: Divorce often means living in two separate places. Discuss this with your children and help them feel comfortable in both homes. Pack a small bag of familiar items they can bring back and forth.

The United Front: Disagreements are inevitable, but avoid putting your children in the middle. Present a united front on major parenting decisions, even if you have to communicate through another means (like email) at times.

Self-Care Isn’t Selfish: You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take time for yourself, whether it’s exercise, talking to a friend, or simply taking a relaxing bath. A healthy you means a better parent for your children.

Remember, this is a journey, not a destination. There will be bumps along the road, but with open communication, empathy, and a focus on your children’s well-being, you can help them navigate this change and emerge stronger.

Consider seeking professional help for yourself or your children if you feel overwhelmed. Therapists can provide valuable tools for coping with emotions and adjusting to the new normal.

Remember, you’re not alone. There are many resources available to support you and your children during this difficult time.

– Shamshi Mubarak

Senior Psychologist

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